Why Willpower Fails

We’ve all tried to change our behavior. Who hasn’t eaten their share of goodies from Thanksgiving to Christmas, determined to lose the weight and get buff when the New Year rolls around? I’ve done it. New Year’s Day, I’ve saddled up my willpower, refreshed my gym membership, eaten protein and veggies for the first two weeks…and then I find my hand in the cookie jar. 

Then the self-loathing mind chatter gives me a bunch of crap about how I’ve failed to succeed at my desired goal. 

It has happened for me over and over…but I’ve found a gentler, more effective way to break self-sabotaging patterns that I want to share with you.

We fall into repetitive behaviors because 95% of them are wired in our subconscious mind, which operates on autopilot.  BUT, 5% of our mind operates from the conscious part of our mind, and this is where the magic happens. When we become mindful of our thoughts, actions, and behaviors and watch them unattached and without judgment…we begin to truly experience what our self-sabotaging behavior feels like in our body, heart, and soul. The more we simply observe, we begin to make decisions consciously and are not a pawn of our subconscious mind. 

I am so passionate about how this awareness changed my life, I spent years writing Roadmap to Ease to explain the changes in detail. I’m also working on a mini-course to make the concept bite-sized and easy to digest…and it even has an arty exercise. Stay tuned. xoox

The easiest way to reach me is artbyelayne@gmail.com.

1 Practice to Tune into the Body

Simply watch your reactions to daily life situations without judgment and experience how it makes you feel. This will engage your conscious mind.

2 Shifts to Observe the Mind…with curiosity and an open heart

“See” your thoughts and conversations floating by on “thought bubbles.”

When you feel reactionary and are about to express a strong opinion that might be better left unsaid, ask where that strong opinion came from.

3 Quotes and a Question to Awaken the Soul 

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.” – C.G. Jung

Your subconscious mind is like a bank, a sort of universal financial institution. It magnifies whatever you deposit or impress upon it. – Joseph Murphy

Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe. – David James Lees

And drumroll…the Question

When a person says something that gets the quills on your back standing at attention, can you pause…take a breath…and not react, but reflect?

Big love to all of you. Thanks so much for being here, e’Layne

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