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| The above picture is the beginning of a Wise Woman Memory Keeper. I was getting things ready to film my first online class when I snapped this pic. I am also doing a class called “I AM” Arty Affirmation Cards and will let you know when it’s launched. I’m off to Maine next week…it will be a reprieve from this Florida sweltering weather!!! Hope you are having a wonderful summer. It’s stunning to me that with a background in mental health and being of an advanced age, I’m still learning about setting healthy boundaries. I recently cut off a long-time relationship, and only in hindsight did I realize I’d cut it off several times over decades, only to end up back in the very unhealthy relationship. As an empathic person, my heart aches for those who have endured neglectful and abusive upbringings. I often sacrificed my needs to care for theirs, not wanting to hurt them again. So why do many women struggle with setting healthy boundaries, and what are healthy boundaries anyway? Healthy boundaries are like invisible lines that protect your emotional and mental space. They’re the fences around your garden, safeguarding the beautiful flowers from being trampled. By setting healthy boundaries, you’re essentially saying, “This is my space, and I value it.” Women often face societal pressures to be nurturing and accommodating, which can challenge the assertion of personal boundaries. The desire to please, fear of conflict, lack of awareness, and the emotional upheaval that confronting the situation could bring can contribute to “sloppy” boundaries. Improving these boundaries involves self-awareness, assertiveness, and viewing boundary-setting as an essential form of self-care and empowerment. Monitoring my physical energy and mental well-being has greatly helped me identify what I need to say NO to. Also, using the tagline of my book, Release What Weighs You Down – Embrace What Lights You Up, is a barometer for boundary setting. Awareness often begins with recognizing your feelings. If you notice resentment or stress creeping in, it might signal that a boundary is being crossed. By tuning into these emotions, you can identify where your boundaries need reinforcement. Remember, it’s not just about saying “no”—it’s about saying “yes” to yourself and your needs. Personal boundaries help maintain balance, ensuring you remain grounded, mindful, and awake to the life you want to lead. They empower you to live authentically and harmoniously with others, fostering healthier relationships and a more peaceful mind. Embrace the courage to honor your boundaries, for it is in this space that you find your true strength, freedom, and alignment with your soulful self. Big love to all of you. Thanks so much for being here, e’Layne 1 Practice to Tune into Your Body Use the sensations in your body to tell if boundaries are necessary or not. If you experience tightness, a racing heart, or a lump in your throat, check your boundaries. 2 Shifts to Observe the Mind…with curiosity and an open heart. Are your thoughts obsessing over how someone is treating you? Are your instincts telling you you’re in an unhealthy situation? You might want to end the relationship or take some time off for reflection. Ask yourself, Do I feel consistently respected and valued in this relationship, or do I often feel drained and overlooked? Your answer will tell you if you need to move on from a relationship. 3 Quotes and a Question to Awaken the Soul “Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose.” – Deborah Day “Boundaries will feel mean when you’ve spent your life over giving.” “Our boundaries define our personal space – and we need to be sovereign there in order to be able to step into our full power and potential.” – Jessica Moore And drumroll…the Question To lighten up your life, can you take a few minutes and look at the people and obligations in your life through the filter of what lights you up and what weighs you down? If it weighs you down, remember what Anne Lamont said, “No is a complete sentence.“ xoxoxo e’ _________________________________________________ If you practice one of my suggestions, please let me know the outcome. If you’ve read my book, I’d love to receive any feedback, and an Amazon review would make my heart sing and help get my book out to more people. Additionally, I’ll be setting up a private Facebook page for students who take my classes, which will be a great place for a “face-to-face” conversation. xoxoxo The easiest way to reach me is artbyelayne@gmail.com. To buy my #1 Amazon Bestselling book, click on the picture of my book below. It has lots of exercises to quiet the mind of the loud-mouthed naysayers. If you’ve purchased my book and haven’t left a review, I would really appreciate it if you would…Amazon puts books in front of more people based on reviews, e’ xooxo |
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